I've gotten myself into a bit of a situation...you see, I've never had an official fuck buddy...well until recently. It was on my bucket list of things to do before I officially settled down. Dumb idea, but I guess I wanted to see if I could mentally handle something like that, actually I knew that I couldnt, but at times I'm often battling myself and wanting to proove myself wrong.
Truth be told I dont even know why situations like that even exist, why would two people just "fuck" and not want to progress into more if the sex is great? Wouldnt you eventually not want to share your "fuck" buddy with others? Wouldnt the sex eventually have to end, I mean you cant be fuck buddies forever...so many questions.
Of course I do my research and ask my close friends (ladies and gents) what exactly it means to be a fuck buddy, like how does that situation work...All gave me the same answer basically you "fuck and leave"....black and white...no grey...extremely clear cut. Fuck buddies do not argue, talk, do things together, NOTHING but sex.
Okay cool, I feel like... let me see if I'm capable of handling something like this. Sometimes I put myself through situations, just to figure myself out and how I react.
So I figure I'm going to pick someone that I could never be long term with because of course my thinking was "If I can't see myself with the person long term, obviously I'm not going to catch feelings..." I wanted someone that had discretion and would keep it between the two of us, so that when things were over I could smoothly continue living my life without questions from people. And of course someone experienced enough to be a great sex partner. Also in this whole "fuck buddy" experiment that I was doing with myself, I wanted to learn more about sex. Don't get me wrong, I have an extremely sexual mind, but I've never really had the oppurtunity to really learn about sex, and different techniques so it was my bright idea to learn with someone that I had no ties to.
Okay, so finally I came across a great candidate. Perfect actually, fit all the criteria that I had in place. So we start sleeping together, and everything is really good. Sex is fantastic & I'm learning things that I had never knew about. But we're supposed to be JUST having sex right? In between having sex we're exchanging things, late night skype convos, phone convos during the day, cuddled up after sex, I needed a huge favor done that I didnt want to ask anyone else for, he helped me out...a bet that I lost with me having to cook for him in lingerie...me asking him to bring me food & him refusing but offering to take me out...basically all this grey shit that does not fit into the black/white scenario that I had been seeking...and I thought I could handle it, actually I was handling it very well...
But one day I looked up...and I felt weird about the situation and him..."weird" as in before I knew it, I might have caught a few feelings...which according to my research (what my friends have said)...catching feelings is the biggest violation in a fuck buddy situation... you just can't allow your self to do it. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not in love, or any craziness like that. I just genuinely like him alot as a person and that combined with us having sex just makes me feel a certain way that I shouldnt be feeling.
I dont see myself dating him, we're fucking and we're exclusive in that regard, but I'd be pissed if I found out he was dating someone else or taking someone else out. I was already selfish before but this situation has revealed just how selfish I can be.
So yeah thats my "situation", I have a FB that I don't want to share. My common sense is telling me that I should leave the situation alone & I have scaled back tremendously from the situation...but I'm hard headed.
In OTHER news....I did my very very very first youtube natural tutorial, it was actually a good amount of work, but for my first video, I think I did alright and I enjoyed it sooo much. Can't wait to do my second one. I'm shy so I have only showed two people that I know irl, and they had nothing but nice things to say...of course they were two guys that know nothing about natural hair though so they were probaly just saying that to be nice.
In OTHER OTHER news, the prev blog where I had something on my mind that I wasnt ready to talk about, it was in regards to my grandmother, I think I'll be ready to talk about it sooner then I thought I would be. I'm just afraid that I'll lose her, and I want...no...I need more time with her.
In OTHER OTHER OTHER news, I'm so lucky, as I type this, my 3 year old bean is laid on my lap snoring, my 4 year old furball is on the other side of me snoring and my 15 year old furball is behind my head snoring. Sometimes I feel as if God has forgotten about me, in fact at times I'm positive of it...sometimes I feel as if all I do and all that I am going through is in vain, and I ask him for just one sign to let me know that he exists, just one sign...but I suppose the only sign I need is 3 pairs of big old eyes staring back at me with nothing but love. I dont know, at times I just don't feel like I'm worthy enough to have all that I'm blessed with. Every morning I look at my son and I just wonder why he's been given to me, honestly, I've done nothing in life to deserve him.
Just random thoughts, and of course I'm rambling again...
The more we are filled with thoughts of lust the less we find true romantic love. -Doug Horton
Soundtrack...I actually hate this damn song but we'll go with it...Buddy- Musiq