Expectations

A few weeks back I was having a convo with someone and they stated that "It's the womans duty to have her man eat first, she eat second, and clean up after her man when he's done eating..."
I was shocked because I've NEVER heard a guy actually admit to those sort of expectations so out of curiousity I asked around to find out if others had felt this way, just wasnt bold enough to state that they wanted a servant and not a woman.  Alot of guys said it was expected and then a few said it didnt matter.
I used to be guilty of crazy expectations, I figured the more "specific" I was about what I wanted out of a man, the easier it would be to find the perfect guy & ironically I've had men that fulfilled a majority of my silly expectations and I still wasnt happy.
Now as I get older I'm drifting away from "expectations" and more to accepting a person for who they are if they mesh well with me.  When people tell me about expectations/duties they expect it turns me off, the only expectation/duty I should have is to be myself.  This is where people mess up at, if you make me happy, I will do any and everything for you, I'd exceed all expectations you could ever imagine because I'd want you to be happy too not because its my "duty". 
And its funny because usually people with the most expectations, have none for themselves.  Even when I had all these expectations, I didnt even think about what I was bringing to the table, I was just focused on what I wanted.  So the lesson is, if someone makes you happy, work hard to make them happy, and the be happy together.
 Forget about expectations and duties, you're just cheating yourself in the end because you can have soo much more then what your limiting yourself to.